sixth King : anon text

[parasolspinning]

I'm sure this has been asked by others before me, but indulge me Vatheon, if you don't mind.

How do you, personally, deal with grief? How does loss hit you, and how do you face every day when your heart is aching from that loss?

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Text but too lazy to anon-

[radiantwingedone]

By hurting until everything is numb.

[ That is the short answer of "Duke doesn't deal with grief well either". ]

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[parasolspinning]

What if you never go numb? What if the only way it stops hurting is if you break away from everything and isolate yourself for decades?

[oops there might be some similarities between you two]

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[radiantwingedone]

Then something will happen and drag you out. And it will keep hurting, even if you feel numb. Just less.

[ Oops. ]

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[seablaze]

I go out and have a good time.
And then visit the friends I have left here.
The casino is a nice place to forget things for a bit.
Lots of flashy lights, drinks, and entertainment.

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[parasolspinning]

That really hasn't been an option for me

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[seablaze]

The friends or the drinking?

[text - of the non-anon kind]

[booyaka_boom]

*Aww Shiro - if Selphie knew it was you she would be round there quick as a flash*

First off, if you gotta scream or cry, then you gotta scream or cry. I like to do this on my own, though! ^^ Then, you get the biggest chocolate cake you can find and you eat ALL OF IT!~ After that, you go find someone who can give you the biggest hug ever, and maybe they'll go with you for some dinner too (and/or cocktails!)

...missing someone from home? Or has someone just left?

[text - forever anon]

[parasolspinning]

[Sorry Selphie. He's not really looking for any sort of comfort, just... asking.]

It certainly sounds like a healthier way to face it.

Both, really. Though the 'some one from home' is some one whom I lost many, many years ago.

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[booyaka_boom]

*Well, fine then Shiro, but she'll still probably try to offer it anyway*

Mmhmm. I guess it's hard, when it's someone you've missed for so long, and someone you'll probably always miss...

But, you just gotta keep thinking bout it in a good way, yknow? I mean, remember them, and the good times, and move on to make more good times :)

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[shirleyhopeful]

[Oh this was something she could relate to so well]

I can say for sure since everyone deal with grief differently but the first way to start is by talking to your friends.

It's better to talk about it then to keep it bottled up since it can only get worse if you do.

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[parasolspinning]

What if you've pulled away from all of your friends?

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[shirleyhopeful]

[Ahhh, something she can relate to also]

I don't know how you pulled away from all your friends but all I know is that you can't keep holding up grief like that.

If it comes to worst, you can always find a way to express yourself that doesn't involve having friends. ...Like now.

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[chizuru]

The loss of someone dear to you is so hard, isn't it? [ Sure, typing this text out is a bit difficult for the girl.. but she does need to get used to the device, and.. the loss of someone she cares about? Chizuru is quite used to that, by now. ] I think that everyone deals with it differently, but I always told myself I had to continue on each day doing my best.. especially for those that I know would look upon my days and maybe be proud of me. I think in order to move on you do need to accept that it happened for a reason..

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[parasolspinning]

I admire people that are capable of that. They are stronger than I am.

I know my sister would be disappointed to see how I am now, but I haven't been able to lift myself above it.

[chizuru]

I don't see it as being strong or even being a task one can do. You continue on because you must, and because you know you should. ..I know that isn't helpful, but it wasn't a decision for myself I actively made. I thought very little of it at the time. [ Chizuru pauses before sending the next message. ]

Do you believe those that have passed on can watch over you? If anything, you should try to move forward for your sister.. I'm sorry about your loss.

[p2iioniicii2t]

Engagiing iin an engrossiing project iis what II would consiider an iideal method of handliing my own negatiive responses two an occurrence.
IIt reduces the avaiilabiiliity of resources that could be appliied two the negatiiviity, and reroutes them two somethiing another could fiind useful.

[parasolspinning]

It sounds like an interesting and useful plan, and I was once a researcher, but I left behind that life a long time ago.

What would I even do here, as a project?

[p2iioniicii2t]

What II currently engage iin iis an effort two subvert the local economy.
There iis no cost two attemptiing any endeavor you may desiire, and two that end you are able to experiiment wiith projects that may interest you.

II raiise bees and process theiir excess iintwo a variiety of products.
IIt iis suiitably enthralliing.

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[apersonjustforme]

Deal with grief? If grief a bad thing? Are you missing someone?

[More questions than answers, but Chii is learning.]

text; are you asking me? o.o

[parasolspinning]

It's not bad, but it can be painful.

And yes, I suppose I am.

text; no that was mostly to myself and the fact Chii wouldn't know what anon is to do it

[apersonjustforme]

Grief is painful, painful is a bad thing?

Are they special to you?

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[spiria]

i personally try and find something to do to take my mind off of it

it's easier said than done though, and it doesn't always work

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[parasolspinning]

I've found that to be the same for me as well.

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[wavesofjade]

Ignoring The Pain You Feel Will Not Serve You Well As Time Goes On.
It Should Be Faced, And Dealt With In Your Own Way.
You Must Remember That Crying Does Not Make You Weak.
But Also That To Not Cry Does Not Mean Something Is Wrong In How You Are Working Through Your Emotions.
You May Express How You Feel In Many Ways.
But Most Importantly, You Must Not Allow Anyone Else To Tell You How You Should Feel.
You Will Let Go When You Are Ready, And Not Before.
I Know That Grief Can Be Very Lonely.
I Did Not Have The Opportunity To Express How I Felt To Others.
It Was Difficult, But There Is A Way To Find Strength In Your Loss.

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[parasolspinning]

I'm afraid I've already made that mistake, and it's very difficult to erase decades of ignoring not only my pain but the entire world. I shunned responsibility and ran away from it all. I know in my heart that it was wrong to do so, but I couldn't bring myself to face life without the person I cared for.

I don't consider myself a strong person, nor do I think I could ever be strong enough to move on.

It's ridiculous, to realize just how pathetic I am.